How to Build Self-Worth: Practical Tips On Feeling Better About You
Self-worth is the foundation of how we see ourselves, how we engage with the world, and how we navigate relationships. Yet, so many people struggle with recognizing their intrinsic value. We spoke with Frances Dipini, a therapist at Power of Choices, to gain insight into the most common barriers to self-worth and actionable steps to build a healthier sense of self.
Common Barriers to Self-Worth
According to Frances, one of the biggest challenges clients face is coonecting their self-worth to external validation. “The most common barriers to self-worth I see in clients are that they align their self-worth with how people treat them. Whether it be in a romantic relationship, family relationships, or friendships. But self-worth is really something only you can define.”
Many also associate wealth and social status with self-worth, believing that success or material gain equates to value. While these factors can contribute to confidence, they should not define one’s self-worth.
Three Actionable Tips to Build Self-Worth
Building self-worth is a process that requires self-awareness, practice, and patience. Here are three expert-backed strategies:
1️⃣ Be honest with yourself about how you feel.
Self-awareness is the first step toward transformation. Take time to reflect on how you perceive yourself and where those beliefs come from.
2️⃣ Identify areas for growth and create actionable steps.
“Take any challenges or flaws you see regarding your self-worth and make actionable steps to work on them and turn them into strengths,” says [Therapist’s Name]. Personal development is not about perfection, but about recognizing opportunities for growth and committing to them.
3️⃣ Speak positively to yourself daily.
“We are all a work in progress and need a reminder of how amazing we are,” Frances shares. Positive self-talk can help reframe negative thoughts and reinforce self-worth. Try using affirmations like: I am worthy as I am. I deserve love and respect.
How Therapy Helps You Explore Self-Worth
Therapy creates a safe, judgment-free space to explore self-worth without fear of criticism.
“Therapy provides a safe space for you to be vulnerable and honest in a judgment-free zone. Therapy should be used as a tool in life. It helps you get through challenges with support and guidance.”
A therapist can help identify limiting beliefs, challenge negative self-perceptions, and provide strategies to cultivate a healthier self-image.
The Role of Relationships in Self-Worth
Our relationships—both with ourselves and others—play a major role in shaping self-worth.
“At times, we connect our self-worth to what others think about us or what we can do for others. If our relationships with others are not healthy, that can negatively impact our self-worth.”
Surrounding yourself with positive, supportive relationships can reinforce self-worth, while unhealthy dynamics may diminish it. Boundaries, self-care, and personal reflection help in fostering relationships that uplift rather than drain.
Affirmation for Self-Worth
A powerful reminder that can help shift self-perception comes from Eleanor Roosevelt:
“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.”
This affirmation emphasizes that self-worth comes from within, not from the opinions or treatment of others.
What Happens Next?
Self-worth is not a destination—it’s an ongoing journey of self-acceptance, growth, and grace. As Frances reminds us:
“Your worth is limitless… be authentically you and give yourself grace in the process. You’re worth it!”
If you’re struggling with self-worth, therapy can provide the support and tools you need to reclaim your confidence. Schedule an intake session today and start building a stronger, more empowered version of yourself.